ثريا العريض: مقال

ثريا العريض
!لحظات التناقض

هل سمعت أحدهم يصفه الآخرون بأنه " غريب الأطوار! " ؟؟تسألهم التوضيح فيقولون: إنه يناقض نفسه بين لحظة وأخرى!هي حالات نمر بها: يوم لك ويوم عليك.هل تعرف أحدا لا يناقض نفسه في تصرفاته بين حالة وأخرى؟*ما الذي يجعلنا نتناقض بين اللحظات؟؟هل يدرك كل أحد منا تناقضاته بين اللحظات؟؟ ما الذي يجعلنا نكره أو نحب ؟أهو ما يفعله الآخرون تجاهنا عمدا أو حتى دون قصد.. ويسبب لنا ضيقا أو إزعاجا؟أم إن ما لا يفعلون تجاهنا كأن لا يحسوا برغباتنا ومشاعرنا أو لا يستجيبوا لابتسامتنا أو رغبتنا في التقارب هو ما يسبب لنا أحاسيس عدم الرضى عنهم؟*هل استغربت أن دمعة تتسلل إلى عينيك وأنت تعايش خيالا يستثيرك؟؟ تقرأ قصة أو قصيدة أو تشاهد فيلما أو مسرحية تمثل وكأنك تعايش أحداثها وآلام أبطالها بنفسك؟ ثم لا يحركك ولا تستغرب تماديك أن تضرب ابنك أو زوجتك أو أخاك ثم لا تبالي بألمهم؟*لو سمعت على غفلة صوتا من وراء ستار يوصل إليك بصراخه أو نشيجه أو نهنهاته أن هناك شخصا يتعذب جسدا أو روحا فبماذا تحس؟هل تغالبك الرغبة أن تخترق الجدار لتصل إليه ؟هل ترى دافعك مجرد فضول طفولي؟هل شعورك استجابة لاستنفار يحركك لتفعل شيئا ما ؟ يستثير فيك نخوة الشهامة أو أريحية الإنسانية؟هل تستجيب لاستنفار المجهول أم تقرر أن الأمر لا يعنيك ؟ أن ليس من العقل أن تعرض سلامتك لخطر الدخول في المجهول؟*و لو كان ذاك الصوت صوت إنسان معروف لديك يعز عليك , فهل كنت ستغامر لتصل إليه وتمد له يد العون؟و لو كان صوت إنسان تعرفه وتكرهه لسبب ما فهل ستستجيب أيضا أم ستتركه شامتا راضيا؟ هل أنت شخص واحد هو ذاته في تفاعلاته مع كل الآخرين ؟؟ هل أنت نفسك في جميع حالاتك؟ *أم إن كلا منا كائن متعدد ذو خاصية الانفعال بطرق متعددة مع الناس المختلفين؟أم هي الظروف المختلفة تتفاعل مع فردية كل منا فتطوعه ليتفاعل بصورة مختلفة بين اللحظة والأخرى؟*سؤال جوهري لمن يشاء الإجابة:لو كنت مسؤولا في سلطة ما: فما هي الحالة التي تسيطر عليك في تعاملك مع " المتجاوزين": هل ترق عند المعاناة لأنك إنسان يتعاطف مع إنسان يعاني؟ أم تغضي عن الحنو مكتفيا بحزم موقعك كممثل للسلطة؟

Know it all on this site!

Hi,
Check this site!
I am POSITIVE you will find something
interesting according to your own
MIND MAP!! ;)


http://www.videojug.com/categories

Expert advice and professional know-how
Since launching in September 2006, VideoJug has grown into the world’s most comprehensive library of free factual video content online. Our professionally-produced, high definition videos cover every conceivable topic and the site is the definitive online "encyclopaedia of life".

The video content on the site takes a variety of formats that include informative "How To" and "Ask The Expert" films that guide you, step-by-step, through everything and anything in life.
The “How To” format delivers easy-to-follow, bite-size tutorials on a wide range of topics from cleaning tips and sport, to relationship advice and recipes.

CHeck out these sites.

Good morning,

Here are sites that might interest you.

http://www.walkthetalk.com/

About The Walk The Talk Company
Since 1977, WalkTheTalk.com has helped organizations and individuals, worldwide, achieve success through Ethical Leadership and Values-Based Practices. Our mission is both simple and straightforward: to provide you and your organization with high-impact resources for your personal and professional success!
We offer you hundreds of tactical and practical tools…each designed to inspire, inform, and most importantly, give you new levels of professional skills and confidence.
A Message From the Founder and CEO of WalkTheTalk.com
Our goal at WalkTheTalk.com is both simple and straightforward: to provide you and your organization with high-impact resources for your personal and professional success.
WALK THE TALK resources are designed to inspire, inform and, most importantly, help you reach new levels of professional skills and confidence. Each member of the WalkTheTalk.com team appreciates the trust you have placed in us, and we look forward to serving you and your organization in the future. Until then...
Best regards,
Eric Harvey, president and founder of The WALK THE TALK Company, is a leading expert on Ethics and Values-Based Practices. As a renowned speaker, business consultant, and author of twenty-six highly-acclaimed books - including the best-selling WALK THE TALK ... And Get The Results You Want, Ethics4Everyone, and The Leadership Secrets of Santa Claus - he and his team of professionals have helped thousands of individuals and organizations turn their values into value-added results.

Mamma Mia

The story may not be original,
but its a Streep movie ... so light, deep somehow and takes
you back to the ABBA era in a wonderful way. I loved it.

Tips for Dealing with Difficult People

Tips for Dealing with Difficult People

You know the type:
He leans on your desk, glares, and says loudly, “Just how long is it going to take me to get some help around here?”

She comes over from next door whining: “Are you folks ever going to clean up your yard? You know, your place is the only one on the block that...”

He calls your business and demands immediate service, an extra discount, and extended terms. “...And if you can’t help me, I want to speak to the owner.”

She can’t wait to corner you at the open house: “Did you hear about Fred and Betty?” she hisses. “Wilma told me that they...”

What is a “difficult person”?

Anyone who doesn’t behave as expected. We do, after all have some unwritten “rules” about appropriate behavior in our society. Be fair; wait your turn; say “please” and “thank you”; talk in conversational tones and volume... Difficult people ignore those mores, or act as if they are exempt – often while they expect you to live by the standards they’re flaunting. They’re usually loud, intrusive, impolite, thoughtless, selfish, and, well, difficult!

Here is a summary of guidelines and procedures which can help when you’re confronted with a particularly difficult person or situation:

- Your efforts ought to be directed at solving a substantive problem, not “taking care of” a difficult person. If you insist on one “winner,” there probably won’t be one. (And if there is, it may not be you!)

- De-escalation of loud voice and angry gestures is usually best accomplished by modeling: lower your own level of emotional behavior and you’ll probably affect the other person’s actions.

Your approach to these situations should be your own as much as possible – a good fit with your natural style. All the ideas here are legitimate – but only some will work for you.

- Preparation in advance is a big help. Learn deep breathing and relaxation techniques, cognitive restructuring, assertive skills. A confrontation is not the time to start practicing!

- If you’re going into a situation where it’s likely you’ll confront a difficult person, set up some ground rules in advance to cover typical problems (e.g. time limits for talkers in a group meeting).

- If there are particular individuals in your life who are predictable problems, you can practice methods which are custom designed for responding to them.

- Get to know yourself and your own triggers for emotional response. As someone said, “Get to know your own buttons, so you’ll know when they’re pushed!

- So-called “I-messages” really can help – take responsibility for your own feelings without blaming the other person.

- Acknowledging the other person’s feelings while seeking a resolution is usually helpful. (“I can see you’re really upset about this.”) But be especially careful not to patronize or come off sounding like a too-empathetic Rogerian counselor.

- It’s not often possible to solve a situation on the spot. Look for a temporary way out so you can seek a solution in a calmer moment.

- Remember, you do have some options for action. Any of them can cause you more trouble with a difficult person if you become a manipulator, so apply them sensitively – but firmly – and with the main goal of getting on with your life.

Source: http://www.athealth.com/consumer/disorders/difficultpeople.html

كتاب يستحق القراءة _ A book worths reading

هو كتاب رائع جدا كتبته: ميتني نورجارد
قدم الكتاب: ستفن كوفي
وهي عبارة عن مجموعة من قصص الكاتب
هانز كريستيان اندرسون الكلاسيكية
وتطبيقاتها في مكان العمل

نجد هذا الكتاب مترجما للعربية في مكتبة العبيكان
يحتوي الكتاب على هذه الحكايات

حكاية ملابس الإمراطور الصغير
(عندما نسعى إلى التوافق فإننا نتبنى أجندة الآخرين)

حكاية فرخ البط الدميم
(عندما ننصت إلى صوت الشغف بداخلنا فإننا نصل لطبيعة البجع في كل منا)

حكاية خنفس الروث
(عندما نريد المكانة نسعى لتطوير أنفسنا)

حكاية القزم عند البقال
(عندما نتخلى عن الوهم نعرف حقيقة أنفسنا)

حكاية شجرة التنوب
(عندما نشعر بالسخط، نتوق إلي ما ليس في أيدينا)

حكاية العندليب
(عندما نعشق، نحيا الحياة بحق)

في نهاية كل حكاية تستعرض الكاتبه التطبيقات التى يمكن تطبيقها أو مناقشتها
في مكان العمل للوصول الى مناخ عملي صحي و منتج قدر الإمكان

The Ugly Duckling Goes to Work:
Wisdom for the Workplace from the Classic
By Mette Norgaard

Most professionals push themselves relentlessly to become more successful. But rarely do they find the time to slow down, reflect, and connect to what it is that makes work exciting and meaningful for them. The Ugly Duckling Goes to work draws on Hans Christian Andersen's classic stories to help people become more authentic and alive in their work--in short, to have a genuine work life. Timed to coincide with the global celebration of Andersen's 200th birthday, this charming and incisive book presents new translations of classic fairy tales, and examines the themes and folk wisdom that can be applied to today's workplace. "The Emperor's New Clothes" cautions what can happen when fitting in is taken too far; while "The Ugly Duckling" describes the beauty of finding the company of "fellow swans" and working with people who bring out the best in ourselves. Lighthearted yet practical, The Ugly Duckling Goes to Work helps readers think about their professional lives in a way that will bring greater purpose to their busy work lives.

الشعر الأندلسي

من أجمل الشعر الأندلسي

جائت معذبتي في غيهب الغسق
كأنها الكوكب الدري في الأفق
فقلت نورتني يا خير زائرة
أما خشيتي من الحراس في الطرق؟
فجاوبتني ودمع العين يسبقها
من يركب البحر لا يخشى من الغرق

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What a DAY!!

Yeah! Yeah! Its been one of those days, alright!

I like the idea of the quote!

I LIKE THAT!
How about you?

Strange!!

What a Strange Wave Break!
Amazing!

http://images.google.com/imgres

SAVE ALL YOUR FILES ON CDs

Hello everyone,

EVERYTHING on my laptop was lost yeasterday night! Thank God! :)
I had all important files, photos, ... etc, saved on a removable hard disk
and CDs. Please, make sure you keep your precious files saved else where
other than your PC or LT. They are NOT to be trusted.

Fly into a good mood!

Have you heard the expression 'fly into a rage?' Have you heard the expression 'fly into a good mood?'
I suppose you haven't. But have you ever felt a bit down and someone or something reminds you of an time when you were very happy, amused or successful in something? And quite suddenly, you no longer feel down, but you are laughing, excited or full of optimism? Have you ever been in the middle of a row when the telephone rings, and you find yourself flying into a good mood and speaking to the other person as if nothing had happened? You may never have heard the expression, 'fly into a good mood', but everyone has had this experience of within seconds getting into a different state, or witnessed others doing so.


We can use this fact in several ways. One way you can fly into a good mood is to use this simple technique:

When you appear to have a problem, ask:
'Suppose this problem were solved, how would things be?'
What would you see? See them now in your mind's eye.
What would you feel? Feel those feelings now!
What sounds would you hear? Hear them now!
When you are thinking that your problem is solved, and you are experiencing what you would experience when your problem is solved, how can you feel other than good?

An even quicker approach is to ask:
'How would I look if this problem were solved?' (Like the cat that got the cream, I suppose!)
So when events are less than optimal, fly into a good mood. You can handle things better in this state!
Why not share your comments and opinions with the rest of us. If you have any ideas, why not share them too?


TO read more articles go to:
http://www.trans4mind.com/personal_development/1stSelfDevelopment/Fly.htm

Using mind maps to develop students writing,

To read about how can mind maps help develop your students writing,
please go to the following link:

http://www.teachingenglish.org.uk/think/articles/using-mind-maps-develop-writing

You will find more. Have fun.

:)

A kid with a different Mind Map :)

cartoon from: www.glasbergen.com

What is mind mapping?

What is Mind Mapping?
Mind Mapping is a way of creating pictures that show ideas in the same way that they are represented in your brain.

Your brain uses words, pictures, numbers, logic, rhythm, color and spacial awareness to build up unique pictures of information. The ideas are linked together in a way that makes it easy to understand and remember.

Mind Maps use exactly the same types of things to show the ideas and link them together. This

is what makes Mind Mapping so powerful.

You start with a central topic that you are going to be examining, and add branches radiating from the center, and then sub-branches as required to represent your ideas.

You create your Mind Maps in a natural way by using your own words and connections that make sense to you. It is best to stick to one or two keywords on the branches and use the branches to show the connections between the ideas.


How can I use mind mapping?
You can use Mind Maps for every part of your life where you need to:
* think more clearly,
* plan or organise things,
* solve problems,
* make decisions,
* remember things,
* do school and university assignments,
* come up with new ideas (using brainstorming),
* or give presentations.

What if I can't break down my idea into a single keyword?

This is a common issue when people are not used to Mind Mapping.

After having worked with Mind Mapping for many years, we have come to the conclusion that there are some times where you do want to have phrases and sentences on branches rather than just words. This is the exception rather than the rule though.

Try putting just one or two words on each branch and see how you go. It will force you to think carefully about the main ideas. In some cases, a paragraph may convert into one main keyword and several sub-branches with a keyword on each.

This really does open up thinking about the core meaning of the topic and the association of the refinements and explanations to the main topic.

Many people find the transition to this way of thinking difficult at first, but now they say they will never go back.

In Mind Mapping, there is no "right" or "wrong" way to organize your Mind Map, so don't be scared to try things out and find what works best for you.

article source: http://www.novamind.com/mind-mapping/

map from: www.thethinkingbusiness.co.uk/mindmappingappl

Meet the guy who wrote Blink

Malcolm Gladwell

1. What is "Blink" about?
It's a book about rapid cognition, about the kind of thinking that happens in a blink of an eye. When you meet someone for the first time, or walk into a house you are thinking of buying, or read the first few sentences of a book, your mind takes about two seconds to jump to a series of conclusions. Well, "Blink" is a book about those two seconds, because I think those instant conclusions that we reach are really powerful and really important and, occasionally, really good.
You could also say that it's a book about intuition, except that I don't like that word. In fact it never appears in "Blink." Intuition strikes me as a concept we use to describe emotional reactions, gut feelings--thoughts and impressions that don't seem entirely rational. But I think that what goes on in that first two seconds is perfectly rational. It's thinking--its just thinking that moves a little faster and operates a little more mysteriously than the kind of deliberate, conscious decision-making that we usually associate with "thinking." In "Blink" I'm trying to understand those two seconds. What is going on inside our heads when we engage in rapid cognition? When are snap judgments good and when are they not? What kinds of things can we do to make our powers of rapid cognition better?


To read all the questions go to: http://www.gladwell.com/blink/index.html

Hanan's Mind Map.

Its simply a place where I can come and say things the way I see them according to my own Mind Map, nothing more and nothing less.It could be informative or silly. It could make sense to you or not. You may agree or not. You may want to come again or not. Its all possible!You see it all depends on the way you look at it according to your own Mind Map. :)

One of the BEST movies ever!
The Bucket List

Really worth watching!

Its my first time as a blogger!

Hello everyone,

Its my first day here. I'll be back with more to say. I have created this blog to practice what I was learning on my online ICT course. Great experience and a sure NEW way of learning, it sure is to me!

Hanan